5 Benefits of Playing Chess

Chess is one of the few games that offer many benefits for its players. It is not for anything that this game is often referred to as “the game of kings.” Historically, many kings and rulers also saw this game as a way to practice their skills in war planning and strategizing. Today, young and old could play chess and enjoy their benefits:

 

1. It boosts your IQ.

 

Playing chess is all brain works. It involves careful planning of your moves and strategizing what to do next to checkmate the opponent. This in turn can help players practice and continually enhance their analytical skills. There was a study conducted on 4,000 students from Venezuela which showed a significant improvement in the IQ scores of students after four months of receiving chess instructions and playing chess.

 

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Mr. Egghead

It is already summer and I have shaved my head for a change. My wife teases me that I look like an egghead, but it does not matter because I just hated summer heat since I was a child. I did not think that my wife is serious about the egghead thing, but then, she gave me a blue cap. I asked her about it and she told me that she is just kidding, but she is smirking at me. She told me that she gave me a cap to use outside because I do not have any protection on the top of my head when I am going out.

I have gone on to my regular routine and that is teaching my kids playing chess. When I got home, I told my wife that my scalp is really itchy. She told me that it might became itchy because I am not use to having a bald head. At night, it came to a point the I am scratching it wildly because I don’t know what else to do with them. My wife noticed what I am doing and she told me to stop it unless I want some scabs on scalp in a few days. She got up from our bed and she got me some antihistamines to lessen my frequent itching. She told me that I should go to a dermatologist the next day to end my misery. I asked her to accompany me because it is going to be my first time to consult a dermatologist. She understood and she told me that she would gladly come with me tomorrow.

My wife and I walked into the clinic and we asked the secretary if there are more slots that are available for today. She told us that there is an available slot this hour. She added that if we could just wait in a few minutes because the doctor is still on a consult with other patients. We waited for just a few minutes in the waiting room and my name is called. My wife and I entered the doctor’s clinic and we are greeted by the beautiful doctor. She thought that the patient is my wife so she asked her what brought her to the clinic. I told him that I am the patient and I told her about my problem. She asked for permission if she could examine my scalp and she told me that they looked like ingrown hairs and they are all reddened and swelling a bit. She examined it further and reading more information at http://www.scalpsolutions.net, she told me that I have scalp folliculitis. She asked me if it is the first time that I encountered such a condition and I told her yes.

My wife told the doctor that I shaved my head a few days ago and it just happened. I also told the doctor that I already have taken antihistamines to prevent myself from scratching them. The doctor told me that she is glad that I went to her clinic immediately as I did not wait for it to become worse. She told me that my condition could be easily medicated with an antibiotic cream. She also suggested that I continue taking antihistamines if I still suffer some itching.

Wrong Move

I have been feeling under the weather for the past few days. My wife asked me about what is going on because I am not the type of person who would pass up a game of chess for days. I told her that I am experiencing intermittent fever, severe pain on my back below the ribs and an occasional pain in urination. My wife is worried about my symptoms because it sounds like that I have kidney stones. I asked my wife is this what do kidney stones feel like because I really feel weak. She told me that I have to get to the doctor immediately because I should never take such a condition lightly. I told her that I have a friend who passed his stone in his urine and she told me that smaller kidney stones could pass through urine tracts, so I should have a doctor examine me, so that we would know what we should do. I told her that first thing in the morning, I would go to the hospital to know about my condition.

The next morning, I am surprised to see that my wife already changed her clothes. I asked her about where she is going and she told me that she is going to come along with me to the hospital. She added that I should hurry up to avoid long lines for the doctor because I am just going to be a walk-in patient. I rushed taking a bath and in just fifteen minutes, I am ready to go.

We went to the hospital and I am so fortunate enough that there are many available slots for a check-up. In just minutes, we are finally let into the premises of the doctor’s clinic. The doctor asked me about what brought me in his clinic and I told him about my symptoms. He asked me if I am drinking enough water for a day and I told him that I usually prefer juices and sodas. He told me that it might be the reason why I am experiencing such symptoms. He advised me to refrain drinking other beverages other than water. He told me that I should not be too worried if I have kidney stones because there are many home remedies for kidney stones and medicines available in the market that could treat me properly. The doctor told me that I have to undergo certain tests to confirm my condition with urinalysis, blood test and an abdominal x-ray. My wife held my hand as we go to the laboratory for testing.

The medical laboratory scientist or MLS told me that it would take me a few hours before I could know about the results of my test. He assured me that it is going to be accurate. I thanked him and we went off to the café to relax a bit. My wife got me a big bottled water to drink because it is going to help me flush my stones.

Family is always Family

I am just hanging around at Starbucks with my buddies and students and then suddenly, I felt my phone vibrating. It said that my mom is calling me. I am not close with my mom, so when I received a call from her, I am a bit surprised. I asked her about how she is doing. She told me that she is all right, but my dad is diagnosed with bronchitis and I need to visit him because he is asking for me. I was taken aback by what she said. It took me a minute before I could properly absorb all the information that my mom is telling me. I was somewhat shocked because I just talked to him two weeks ago and he did not tell me anything about his condition. She told me that he already was diagnosed that time and he is having a hard time taking the bronchitis remedies prescribed by his doctor because he thinks that he does not need any more medicine, as he is already too old and he should just die. My shock is magnified with the thought that my dad just wants to die. I know that he is already ninety-one years, but he still has a few good years left of him. I told my mom that I would drop by their house in an hour, as I just needed to tell my wife about what happened.

I went home fast and I searched for my wife in our house, but she was not there. I went to the garden instead and saw her resting there. I told her that my mom called and my dad has been diagnosed with bronchitis. My wife was not surprised because she already knows that my dad is a chain smoker. She added that she really thought that my dad could acquire such a disease because he has been smoking a pack a day for most of his life. She asked me about how my mom is holding on and I told her that my mom sounded worried when she called me earlier. My wife asked me to give her a few minutes to get ready and she would accompany me to my parents’ house.

It has been a long time since I have been to our old house as I choose not to visit my mom as much because she hated my decision to marry my wife. My dad just visits me in my house to see how my family is doing. It is a bit awkward when my wife saw my mom again. I am surprised that the two of them hugged tightly. I am teary-eyed when I saw them hugging and talking. I asked my dad what happened and he told me that he does not need treatment. I told him that he needs a treatment, so we still have a longer time to spend with each other.

My mom started to cry when she was telling us about when the dad’s doctor told her it was a toss-up between bronchitis vs. pneumonia. I told my mom that she could always count on my wife and me to take care of them. She also thanked me for being so loving even though she was not to my wife. She apologized to my wife and she said that she is going to change for the better. I told her that we would always be a family, no matter what happens.

Doubled Surprise

It is going to be my wife’s birthday next week and I want to surprise her with a new pet. She already has a cat and I think that she is going to be happier with a big and colorful fish tank. I do not have any idea about them, so I asked our son Mark to help me with the purchase. I know that my son has some idea about them because he told me a few months ago that he gave her girlfriend a fish tank for their anniversary.

I called Mark and I told him about my plan. He is so excited and he told me that he would just pick me up at Starbucks, which I frequent daily. I told him that it is an excellent idea because I do not want her mom knowing about our surprise. My son arrived at the coffee shop right on time as I am packing my stuff and getting ready to wait for him. He parked his car and he told me that he needs an espresso shot because he needs to perk himself up because he is so tired from work. He also shared that he has been stressed lately because his girlfriend is asking him about when she could finally meet his parents and I just laughed at the thought because, I too, had problems when her mom wanted to meet my parents. I asked my son about why he does not let us meet his girlfriend. He explained that he is still waiting for the right time. I told him that it is okay and he would not be receiving any pressure from me.

We went to the pet shop and Mark asked the sales clerk about aquarium catfishes because he knows that they have been quite popular with hobbyists and collectors. The sales clerk introduced herself as Laura and she told us that they are very easy to take care of and even easier to feed. She told us that cory catfish and pictus catfish are one of the most popular catfishes in their pet shop. She added that these kinds of catfishes are very colorful and a joy to watch because they are very playful and very active. She added that they are very handy to have because they eat leftover foods, which prevents owners to clean the tank often.

Mark told me that he wants to buy her mom the fish tank and I could just pay for the fishes and I agreed. I told my son that her mom would surely be so happy when she finds out that we both chipped in for her birthday gift. I asked Mark to keep the fish tank for now and just bring it in this coming weekend because her mom would surely know that something is up if I keep the fish tank in our house. I also asked Mark to bring his girlfriend with him, so we could finally meet her mysterious girlfriend. He said that he has been trying to find the right timing to let us meet her and may be, this is the right time and I agreed.

New Found Hobby

My wife has been bored about his usual routine of tending to chores around the house all day. She thought that I have been enjoying myself on playing chess all day and she should also do the same. Her friend, Barbara invited her to play golf today, so she is very ecstatic and excited because it is going to be her first time to play. Her friend reminded her to put on a sunscreen because it is going to be a sunny day today and she does not want her to get a second degree sunburn just because of playing golf the whole day.

I am so happy for my wife that she finally has something to do. I have been telling her the past few months that she needs to find a new hobby that she would enjoy. I hope that she would have fun later, so we both would have fun stories to tell during dinner. I asked my wife about how she is going to go to the driving range and she told me that Barbara is going to pick her up any minute now. We heard a honking sound outside and my wife rushed to get out. It is really funny because she even forgot to kiss me goodbye. She must be really thrilled about golf.

Barbara asked my wife to stretch her arms, legs and hips because she would need it. She taught my wife the basics about golf and she is a very fast learner. My wife learned that she must use different golf clubs for different shots. She also learned about golf jargon and about how to score in golf. She is surprised about it because sports are usually won with more points, but it is not the case with golf. Barbara double-checked with my wife if she already put on her sunscreen because she does not want herself putting on vinegar for sunburn here on the golf course. My wife laughed and she asked Barbara if that really happened. She told my wife that a friend of hers was so stubborn to put a sunscreen on and she was burnt by the rays of the sun. They asked the country club staff if they have an antibiotic ointment available and they told them that they only have vinegar as an alternative and first aid treatment. A little bit reluctant, Barbara’s friend did not have a choice, so she applied vinegar all over the affected area. She told Barbara that it was soothing, but she smells so bad.

During dinner, my wife is so animated when she is telling me her stories about her first time playing golf. I noticed that she really enjoyed every minute of it. She added that they are planning to play again next weekend. Before she forgets, she told me that Barbara wants me to come with them next week. I told my wife to tell her friend, thanks, but I have a full schedule this coming weekend, as I have many kids to teach playing chess.

Hanging Out with the Doctor

Every day of the week, I am always at Starbucks sipping coffee and eating my favorite banana chocolate chip cookie cake, while teaching my class. I am so happy that my wife finally understood that I am doing this because it is a passion of mine to share my knowledge to other people. It is nice to know that our community acknowledge my dream and day by day, people have been signing up for my classes for kids and even for professionals who would like to learn the game of chess. I told them that it is a very simple game when you look at it, but once you have played it, you will never look at it the same because there are many combinations and possibilities about how to beat your opponent.

My wife and I have been good friends with Dr. Philippe because we always visit and call him about our cat. He is also a laid-back type of guy that is why I enjoy talking to him. He once asked me about what do I do now because I am already retired and I told him that I teach the game of chess to people who want to learn for a fee. I told him that I am often seen at the Starbucks in the 3rd street if he wants to take a peek.

One day, I am so surprised that Dr. Philippe went to the coffee shop to see me. I have not had many students that day, so I could accept walk-ins. I shook his hand and asked him about what can I do for him. He shared that he always wanted to play competitive chess, but he doesn’t have the time and the right opponent for him to be better. He told me that I would be the perfect opponent as he would be always challenged to figure out new moves and that would make him play better. He told me that he would pay me to play chess with him and I told him that he could just buy me my favorite banana choco chip cookie cake and he agreed. I was planning to go easy on him, but I am startled that he has the moves to beat me so I took the game seriously. We really had fun and fortunately, I had the better of him.

As the doctor and I are resting our minds, we got into some casual talk about stuff. I don’t know that happened, but I just asked him if can dogs eat bananas. Maybe it is because that I have been looking at my banana chip cake for a long time. He laughed at me and asked me if I am serious. I told him that I have tried feeding our cat some bananas and he didn’t even smell it. The doctor laughed at me and he told me that it would be difficult to feed animals, especially dogs, with bananas because usually, it is an acquired taste. He added that it is best to feed them hypoallergenic dog food because lately, there are reports that pets develop allergy over time with their usual, normal food. He advised me to observe our cat and if there are some itching, I should bring it to him immediately for a check-up because it could be something serious.

Promise Fulfilled

My wife is so vain until now and I am glad that she maintained her youthful glow. When I see her now, it just looks like the time stopped for her. She looks like the woman whom I invited to be my prom date eons of years ago. She is still beautiful and elegant as ever. I am glad that I married her and I would always cherish her for the rest of our lives.

I remember when he got pregnant with our son, Mark. She told me that she fears that she will also have stretch marks on breasts like her friend, Barbara. I told her that she should not worry about it now because the health of our baby is still on the top of our priorities. She agreed and she told me that her vanity is her second priority and we both laughed about it. She made me promise that I would help her deal with it right after she has given birth.

When she finally gave birth to Mark, she then asked me about how to remove stretch marks because she could not wear a bikini anymore during summer. I told her that it is still 9 months away from summer season and she could get rid of the stretch marks fast with the right treatment. I suggested her to ask her friend, Barbara about what she has done to get rid of those unsightly marks. Barbara told her that she went to a dermatologist named Dr. James and she had herself get a laser treatment for ten sessions. She added that her marks really lightened up.

My wife is afraid of getting a laser treatment, so my wife and I logged on the internet to search about the best alternative ways to deal with stretch marks. We read that stretch marks would lighten up with a few basic steps that my wife could do. First, she has to mix Vitamin E, Vitamin A, Olive oil and aloe vera gel, and apply the mix to the affected area. She has to massage it for a few minutes to make the skin soft. Next is the exfoliation process and it would help the marks to lighten. She could use granulated salt or sugar mixed with milk. We read that my wife needs to do it every day for a month to see the results that she wants.

My wife is fairly pleased with the alternative way that we found in the web. She told me that she may be vain, but she really is afraid of a laser treatment. She added that it might affect her breast milk, which she would be feeding our son. In just two months, the method that my wife chose really worked. We even have a before and after picture to prove it. She is so thankful to me because I always support her in everything that she decides to do. I told her that it is called love and we hugged.

Perfect Company

My wife has been complaining a lot lately because since I have retired, I am never seen in our home. She told me that I have been really addicted to playing chess and she does not have someone to keep her company. So I thought to myself to give her a present. When she was younger, she told me that she has always wanted to have her own cat, but her mom had an asthma so she could not have one. I decided to go to the pet shop to get her one.

I do not have any idea about what breed to get her, so I just asked the sales representative to educate me about cats. I am just fortunate enough that the sales person is very kind and patient with me as I asked him lots of questions about them. The sales person introduced himself as Charles, but he added that I could also call him Chuck. He told me that I could get my wife an American Shorthair because they are a very good companion at home. He added that such breeds are not high maintenance, as they do not have the need to be groomed every time. They just need once a week bathing and once a month clipping of their claws. He also mentioned that they have lots of customers who are very glad that they have bought such breed because they are very loving and loyal cats once the owner has gained their trust. I asked him about what food to feed them and he told me that they could eat any brand of cat food whether it be dry or the wet kind.

Chuck got me an American Shorthair kitten and he asked me to pet it. I was surprised that the kitten loved being petted because I have seen and met cats of our neighbors and they are normally grumpy and grouchy to humans. He told me that those kinds of cats have not been socialized with other people that is why they have acted like that. He also mentioned that the kittens that are up for sale were all dewormed to prevent roundworms in cats. I am happy with what he told me that I do not have to worry about such a disease. He just reminded me do not let the cat go outside, as they would be prone to getting parasites.

I thanked Chuck for his time and for educating me about cats. He told me that it is his work to educate people about the pets that they would like to buy. I added that I would buy one for my wife as a present. I also asked him to get me a cage for the kitten. Before I go, he reminded me to be wary of pancreatitis in cats because they do not normally show symptoms on the early stage. It is best to bring the cat to a veterinarian twice a year to be sure that our pet is fit and healthy.

Common Allergies and their Remedies

Playing chess needs concentration and focus. But that is a difficult undertaking if you are suffering from certain allergies with bothering symptoms such as sneezing, watery eyes, runny nose, itchy skin and others. At one time, I experienced playing chess with a runny nose and had some difficulty concentrating; so much more if you have an allergic reaction to certain triggers. This is especially true if the chess tournament is held in an open area like in a park where the players are exposed to the elements.

 

There are a number of allergy triggers and allergic reactions which can range from mild irritation of the eyes to a more severe symptom such as difficulty in breathing or generalized swelling. For people with asthma, exposure to certain allergens can trigger an asthma attack. But there are still ways to treat allergic reactions when they occur.

 

 

Pollen Allergy

 

Many people are allergic to pollen. This allergen normally triggers hay fever with symptoms that include nasal congestion, running nose, and itchy and watery eyes. You can prevent this allergy by staying indoors on a windy day. And when indoors, close all your windows and use air conditioning instead. If you have a history of pollen allergy, avoid playing in open spaces such as parks.

 

Treatment for pollen allergy includes over-the-counter and prescription medications such as Benadryl, Zyrtec, Clarinex and oral decongestants such as Sudafed. You could also use nasal decongestants, steroid nasal sprays and medications that contain antihistamines and decongestants such as Allegra.

 

Dust Mite Allergy

 

Dust mites are tiny organisms that thrive on house dust. Allergic reactions are similar to pollen allergy but they could occur all year round, unlike pollen allergy which is seasonal. You can prevent dust mites by using hypoallergenic mattresses and pillows. You should also keep all areas of your home clean especially your bedroom. Treatment for mite allergy includes taking decongestants, nasal sprays or antihistamines.

 

Mold Allergy

 

Just like pollen, these parasitic fungi containing spores also float in the air. Common allergy triggers are normally present in damp places such as in bathrooms and the basement. Outdoors, they are normally present in leaf piles, mulch, hay and grass. Mold allergy is common in the summer and fall and may also occur all year round if you have molds inside your home. Its symptoms include runny nose, coughing, congestion, sneezing and watery eyes, and are very similar to pollen or dust mite allergies.

 

You can prevent mold allergy by avoiding activities that might expose you to these allergen, such as clearing leaves or cleaning your basement or bathroom. If you have to do it, you should wear a dust mask. Also, keep your basement and bathroom well-ventilated. To address the allergy, you could use the same treatment used in pollen and dust mite allergy.

 

Food Allergy

 

There are people who are allergic to certain kinds of food. For instance, there are people who manifest the symptoms of yeast allergy after consuming products containing yeast. Many people are also allergic to nuts, milk, eggs and wheat. Allergic reaction normally occurs within minutes or hours after consuming food triggers. The most common symptoms are swelling around the mouth area, vomiting and diarrhea. There are also rare cases among people who are allergic to corn. Corn allergy symptoms are much different than other food allergies in that they include nasal congestion, difficulty in breathing, lightheadedness, dizziness and fainting. These allergies can be prevented by avoiding their eating food triggers. Taking antihistamine and steroid drugs is a common treatment for food allergy.

 

If you have a history of any of the allergies listed here, it is best to avoid exposure to the allergens. But if exposure is unavoidable due to certain circumstances, you should be able to properly deal with the allergic reaction by observing the above-mentioned precautions. And if symptoms persist, seek medical attention immediately.

How to Avoid Foot Sprain and Injuries

What I love most about playing chess is that it keeps my mind working. It is also not a physically demanding sport which can also make you more prone to accidents, injuries or foot sprains. At times, I watch softball games in the television, and oftentimes I see some athletes being assisted out of the field because of sprained foot or injuries. That is something I don’t like to happen to me. That is why I would rather play chess than any physical sport.

However, if you are engaged in a physical sport like softball, baseball, lawn tennis, soccer or running, there are ways on how you can decrease your risk of suffering from sprains and other foot injuries:

1. Warm up before the start of the game.

Regardless of the type of sports activity you play, warm-ups should always be a part of your routine. Warm-up exercises may include stretching, jogging or bending for about five minutes before the start of your actual practice or game. A good warm-up exercise can help gradually increase your blood circulation and heart rate as well as prepare your stamina for physical exertion during actual play.

2. Do not push yourself too much during the game.

If it is your first time to play a certain sport, don’t force yourself to do certain moves that experienced players normally do. The amount of time you spend on practice or play as well as the level of difficulty that you do should gradually increase over a period of time and not suddenly. Gradual training helps you develop your muscle mobility and strength without too much pressure which may result to sprains or in worse cases, develop into a sinus tarsi syndrome.

3. Use the right shoes for your sport and foot type.

Athletes who have low arches should use shoes that have front and under-the-arch support for more balance and stability. On the other hand, if your feet have high arches, the most ideal shoes for you are those with softer platforms and more cushions. Although cross-training shoes are generally okay for any type of sport, it is best to choose shoes that are designed for your kind of sport.

4. Avoid running or playing on uneven surfaces.

If you are a runner, be careful about running on a hilly or rocky terrain especially if the surface has loose gravel. Runners are prone to foot injuries if they run on unpaved surfaces. It is best to slow down when you are running on an unpaved surface.

5. Listen to your body.

If you are starting to feel some pain on your foot, stop what you are doing and rest for a while until the pain subsides. If you have a recurrent injury in the ankle, using a tape or brace may help you prevent the injury from recurring.

While observing these tips can help you avoid injury or foot sprains, the risk will still be there. Treatment normally varies depending on the severity of your condition. If you really want to totally avoid these problems, you could instead engage in other sports like chess. I strongly recommend this safer sport because of its many mental benefits.

Arm Pain: When to See your Doctor

Among others, one of the activities that you can still do if you have a painful arm is to play chess. I have done it before and with a little discomfort. I also know of other people who have suffered from a painful arm and were not able to have a productive use of their time because of that. This is especially true if you are a right-handed person and you have a pain in the right arm. Depending on the severity and cause of the pain, there may be a possibility for you to see your doctor for proper treatment.

Arm pain can be a result of various factors such as abnormalities or injuries related to the skin, joints, bones, soft tissues and blood vessels. Sometimes, diseases may also cause a person to have pain or numbness in left arm or right arm. These diseases include arthritis, tendinitis, carpal tunnel syndrome, cervical spondylosis, bursitis, herniated disk, angina, thoracic outlet syndrome, or in worst cases, cancer. Treatment varies depending on the underlying cause.

Moreover, some arm pain can be treated at home. For instance, if you have a painful arm because of a broken wrist or other injury, you could apply ice pack to the area and then use a sling for holding the arm while you get medical attention. Most minor cases of arm pain can be remedied by resting, applying ice pact, using compression bandage, and elevating the arm to reduce swelling.

However, there are cases where you have to see your doctor after suffering a painful arm. This is when the pain could be a possible symptom of an underlying serious health condition. There are signs that could help you identify when to see your doctor.

One sign to look after is if the pain comes suddenly and is severe or is accompanied by pressure or squeezing in your chest. If that happens, seek emergency treatment because it could be an early sign of an impending heart attack. The same is true if the arm or shoulder pain occurs while exerting effort but is relieved when resting. This condition is possibly a sign of a heart disease caused by slower blood flow to the heart muscles, otherwise known as angina. You should also see your doctor if you see any deformities in your arm associated with the pain or if the pain happens after hearing a cracking sound or a snap in the arm. Regardless of the cause, also seek medical attention if the pain becomes severe and is giving you trouble moving, if the arm pain has been existent for several days without improving, or if you see any increase in swelling or redness in the painful area.

A pain or numbness in the arm can give you so much discomfort to physically incapacitate you to perform your normal routine. It is important that after feeling pain or numbness, you must assess your condition if it falls within any of the signs that call for immediate doctor’s attention. Otherwise, you could simply apply an appropriate home remedy such as applying an ice pack or compression bandage.

How to Recover from a Painful Experience

I play chess not just for entertainment. It is also my way of stress relief whenever I have problems that I wish to forget for the moment. Other people have their own way of forgetting their problem especially if it involves painful experiences. Others take it by travelling, working, cooking, playing sports and others.

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Recovering from a painful experience cannot be done abruptly; I am speaking based on my own experience. After playing chess or drinking my problem over a bottle of wine, the pain is still there. The same may be true for many people who tried instant relief from a painful past. The best way to recover from a painful experience or past is by way of a step-by-step process:

1. Identify what caused your pain.

Most people who are hurting do not really know why they are hurting. More often, it is already a combination of circumstances especially if the pain happens in a relationship. For instance, you love someone who does not love you back. You may be hurt because you are feeling less confident about yourself, because the person you love also loves someone else, or because you don’t know how to get over someone who doesn’t love you back. Unless you identify what truly is hurting you, you will not be able to move on with the pain.

2. Cry if you must.

Don’t keep the pain inside you. Express it and cry if you must. You will see that after crying, you will feel a lot better.

3. Keep yourself busy.

After crying and grieving, it is time for you to start moving on. Keep yourself busy and entertained. You can work, spend a week of vacation, find a new hobby, play games or do anything that you enjoy doing. And it is best to keep yourself surrounded with friends and family while you are still starting to get over your problem. Some people who are labelled to have an only child syndrome find it especially helpful to be supported by their families.

4. Find a resolution to your problem.

Once you are totally over with the painful feeling, you could now start finding a resolution to your problem. You cannot totally move on unless there is a complete resolution to the problem that is causing your pain. For instance, in the example above, if the reason for your pain is that the situation makes you feel less confident about yourself, start building up your confidence by improving on yourself physically and mentally. If the cause of the pain is that you cannot accept the fact that the person you love loves someone else, then you really have to accept that fact. Consider it as that person’s loss and not yours.

5. Learn from experience.

Who would like to keep on repeating the same mistake and the same pain over and over again? You can avoid this from happening if you learn from your experience. Don’t repeat your mistakes now so that you will not experience the same pain in the future. But don’t shy away also from every opportunity in the future. If you have to take the risk, take it again.

Recovering from a painful experience is easy if you are determined to move on. These five simple steps can help you in the process.